How Are You Misunderstood?

One of the most difficult things about being human is how isolated we are. No one truly knows us, and every day we are misunderstood — sometimes in big ways, sometimes small.

Unfortunately, it is all too easy for misunderstandings to arise. At work, at home, at school, our image of ourselves is different from what others see.

You mean one thing, but say something else, even if what you say is close to what you meant. Your actions are misinterpreted. Your motivations are misassigned.

No one knows what goes on in your head but you. No amount of exposition, no amount of explanation is sufficient for complete understanding.

Despite our best efforts, our inner monologue is something that is unknown to all but ourselves. Even the people that know us best — our parents, our spouse, our loved ones — often misunderstand us.

In what ways are you misunderstood by those around you? How do you act, what do you say, which of your written words are misinterpreted? What traits do you have that go unheralded or unappreciated? And what do you do to address this?

Related questions: How do you think others see you? How are you underappreciated? Do you feel lonely? How do you talk about yourself?

2 thoughts on “How Are You Misunderstood?”

  1. Most people who know me know that I am passionate about several things (e.g., ending homelessness, starting an heirloom and open-pollinated seeds revolution). While some people say that my passion is infectious when I get on my soapbox regarding these issues, I don’t think people understand how my visions to achieve these things feels so incredibly possible.

    Of course, I know people have their own passions and restrictions on their time and capacity. I rarely drop everything to act upon their passions, so why should I expect something different from them?

    The misunderstood catch is that I wish I could engage people in conversations about my vision going beyond feelings to actual actions. They don’t need to take those actions necessarily, but I would like to get into more not-so-one-sided conversations about why my passions are so urgent and how each can make progress if more of the populace embraced them.

    I want people to feel that ending homelessness is possible and know how that could be accomplished. The same goes for creating a heirloom and open-pollinated seed revolution.

  2. How do I present?

    What are my cadence content compassion & credibility. Other ‘C’ words, cleverness, credentials, confidentiality or cluster?? These are not easy to think about. It makes me feel awkward (to even be asked). My own primary care doctor says I’m different. What did she mean by that?

    How do you think others see you?

    As possibly more energetic than I am. When I’m *out – the – house* that pesky hypomania kicks in, so others may see some version of swedish-irish super.woman.wanna.Be.

    How are you underappreciated?

    The poet, song writer, meditator, trance dancer in me is starved by now for attention, attending. The muses and I haven’t met up for several decades.

    Do you feel lonely? try not to.

    How do you talk about yourself?

    Oy veh. I suffer. I suffer in silence and then laugh out loud.

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