Why Don’t You Know What Makes You Happy?

We are all chasing happiness throughout our lives. Sometimes, we will go to great lengths to try and achieve it. But do you know what will actually make you happy?

It’s hard to argue against happiness. Simply put, it feels good. Given a choice between some other emotion — being sad, for instance, or mad — happiness will win in all but the most extreme circumstances.

However, some studies seem to suggest that what we think will make us content doesn’t. Or at least, it doesn’t produce long-lasting happiness.

For example, we convince ourselves that buying the latest gadget will do the trick. And sure enough, shortly after buying it we are very pleased, but that sensation fades pretty quickly. In turn, that leaves us wanting something else to fulfill that need.

Alternately, it is suggested that positive experiences might lead to longer-lasting happiness. Sharing with a loved one, making memories with friends, or unique experiences are thought to be more fulfilling, ultimately, than some physical possession.

Have you found that to be the case? Do you know what will make you happy? Or do you just think you know? Why would we think something will make us happy when it won’t? Looking back on your past experiences, can you draw any conclusions for what has been the happiest times of your life?

Related questions: Is happiness the most important purpose in life? What makes you the happiest? Why do we put up with unhappiness?

 

What Are You Passionate About?

Each one of us has something that they are passionate about. A topic, a hobby, or a career that they obsess over, and will happily spend free time thinking about or working on. What is yours?

Share why if you wish.

What Makes You Nostalgic?

Nostalgia can be a very powerful experience. It can make happy memories seem even happier. And it can blunt traumatic times, so they don’t seem so bad.

However, what exactly is nostalgia, and where does it come from? Why do we remember the past fondly, even the things that were unpleasant?

In addition, what are the events that contribute to forming these memories? In particular, what are the things in your past that make you nostalgic?

Related questions: What makes something memorable? What is your favorite childhood memory? How can we maintain wonder? What is your favorite holiday memory?

 

How Do You Perform Self-Care?

Self-care is becoming more popular, but there are still many people who do not know what self-care means. Or how to do it.

In order to keep your car functioning, you have to take it to the shop every so often. Your body and mind are no different. Routine maintenance is necessary to keep yourself working well. You can’t help others, like friends or family members, if you don’t take care of yourself.

For your body, you might get regular massages. Or go to the gym to work out. Maybe you run, or bike, or rock climb. Self-care can even be as simple as going to a primary care physician for an annual check-up.

To keep your mind working well, some people meditate. Others might see a therapist regularly. You might have a pet that calms you down, or take an occasional day off to sit on the couch and read a book.

There are many different ways to improve your physical or mental health. Are there any in particular that you do? Are there some you wish you, or a family member, would do on a regular basis? Does your job offer any self-care benefits? How do you perform self-care?

Related questions: What does it mean to be healthy? Could everyone benefit from therapy? What makes you the happiest? Shower or bath?