Some smells, toys, sounds, or other experiences can transport us back in time to when we were young. What does it for you?
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Category: Age
Do You Replace What You Have Lost?
We all have experience with loss. When you have lost something — a pet, a loved one, a friendship — do you attempt to replace it?
In one sense, life is just an accumulation of various kinds of loss. Over the course of your life span, you will, at one point or another, lose just about everything, from your car keys, to your innocence, to your parents.
Since we all have experience with loss, we also can learn to deal with it. Some losses are more impactful than others, while some are downright trivial.
Replacement is obvious in some cases. Of course you replace your credit cards if you lose your wallet. Of course you send out your resume if you lose your job.
However, in some cases, particularly if the losses are emotional and not physical, it is not so clear. If you are emotionally devastated at the loss of a beloved pet, do you get another one? Or is the emotional wound so raw that you cannot risk getting hurt again?
Similarly, as friendships come to an end, it may not be clear that you will make new friends. For most people, making new friends gets more rare the older you get. Is that because you get pickier when choosing who to spend your time with? Or is it something else?
Generally, how do you deal with loss? Is your instinct to try and replace the thing that is lost? Or do you try to forget about it, and concentrate on other areas of your life?
Related questions: What would you do if you lost part of yourself? How do you deal with loss? What can you learn from loss? What do you miss? Who do you miss?
In What Ways Do You Not Act Your Age?
Acting your age is often seen as the responsible thing to do. But are there times you have chosen to not act your age, for one reason or another?
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How Do You Make Friends As An Adult?
For many children making friends is remarkably easy. However, adults often find it more challenging. How do you make friends as an adult?
Children are not picky about their friends. Thus, another child, say, at the park, or in the grocery store aisle, just might be your new friend.
However, as you age and learn more about yourself as a person, you become more selective regarding your friends. They need to share an interest or two with you. Their personality needs to be compatible with yours. You have to be able to find a common schedule, which is not always easy.
Moreover, the social opportunities available to meet potential friends may shrink as well. Rather than attending school with dozens or even hundreds of people your own age, you may work in a company with people from drastically different ages and backgrounds.
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Even if you do meet people, for instance, at a friend’s party. Will you be able to find a common area of interest in the limited amount of time you have together?
Another potential problem someone may face in making new friends is that you don’t need any. That is, your social circle may already be as full as you want it to be, so you may not be looking for, or open to, meeting someone new.
All of which can make it harder for an adult to make friends, when compared to a child. How can these problems be overcome? Are there any methods you have discovered that allow you to make friends as an adult?
Related questions: What qualities do you look for in a friend? Can an Internet friend be a true companion? Would you be friends with yourself? What fictional character would you like to befriend?
Birthday: Celebrate Or Not?
Some people say birthday celebrations are for children. Others like to celebrate throughout their entire lives. Which are you?
Share why if you wish.