An important part of self-improvement is having a road map to follow. In other words, who do you want to be?
It is hard to get somewhere if you don’t know where you are going. Thus, in order to get to the place you want to go to — that is, the person you want to be — it is crucial to know in advance who that is.
Maybe you feel it best to be a good partner, or parent (or grandparent), or maybe a good employee. You might want to be the kind of person who reads every day, or someone who sees the world. The possibilities are nearly endless.
One way to determine which traits you wish to have or to develop is to look for role models. If there are people around you who behave the way you want to behave, try to figure out what it is that helped them get there. You may even want to ask them.
There are also many books extolling one virtue or another. You may want to read up on someone you admire, to see what makes them tick. How do they lead a creative life, or make money, or increase empathy, or whatever you wish to emulate?
Once you decide on what you wish to improve, there is the secondary task of actually doing it. If you think that, for example, punctuality is important, ask yourself: how can I be more punctual?
Reaching your potential, and becoming the person you desire to be requires that you put some thought (and eventually some planning) in place. Who do you want to be?
Related questions: How do you set priorities? How do you want to be remembered? Who are your role models? What does it mean to be a good person?
Relationship-wise, I want to be the best spouse, friend, family member, and colleague possible. This means I should find ways to support and urge those in my social circle to embrace and use their strengths and talents to help them be who they want to be. I want to surround myself with people who care and show respect for one another and who are intellectually curious, adventurous, and fun. I hope that my relationships bring out my best self. I want to make knowing me fun and inspiring.
Work-wise, I want to make change desirable, necessary, and possible. I want to articulate a vision in which justice wins. To do so, I will provide tangible actions to reach this future and befriend those who can help make it happen.
I want to use my skills, talents, and resources to advance my passions: fighting to end poverty, ending the stigma attached to mental illness, and promoting heirloom gardening.
I want to find ways to reduce the Anxiety I feel on a regular basis or at least lessen its impact on me and reduce its intensity as much as possible.
I want to age well and, thus, do as much as possible to promote health physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.