It is up to each person to decide what is important and what is not. Not everything you do has to be something that matters. However, to lead a meaningful life, you must do some important things.
There are, of course, many different ways of measuring what matters.
One way is to contribute to your community. You might do this through the job that you have, through your relationship with your neighbors, or some volunteer effort. It might be important to you to be an upstanding citizen.
Another way is to recognize and develop your own skills and strengths. That might mean taking classes, being introspective, or seeing a therapist. Being a good person might be what matters to you. Are you hard-working, innovative, or punctual? Or one of many, many other traits?
Listen to a podcast where Michael and Lee discuss the related question: ‘What gives a person value?’ We also discuss a bonus question: ‘What makes you you?’
Similarly, how you interact with loved ones may matter the most to you. It might be important to be a good parent to your child or children. Perhaps you are the fun cousin, or the consummate host.
In addition, there are several other ways you can do something that matters to you. And, of course, multiple things can matter to you at the same time.
What matters to you, and what do you do to show it? What do you think is the relationship between what you think is important, and the actions that you take? How might you increase the number of meaningful things you do?