Peace Or Discomfort?

Most people strive to make their lives more peaceful. But growth requires some discomfort, like the grain of sand that an oyster turns into a pearl. Do you prefer peace or discomfort?

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Peace Or Discomfort?

What Can You Control?

Sometimes we feel the need to be in control of a situation. Often, we are confident in our own abilities, and doubtful in others’.  But how much control do we actually have?

We have the most control over ourselves. I can decide what time I go to bed, what food I eat, where I live, and the people I choose to surround myself with.

Controlling others is more difficult, but it can still be done. Through persuasiveness, persistence, or even intimidation, we can exert some level of control over our family, friends, neighbors, or community.

There are people who need to feel that they are in control, of themselves or situations around them. It can produce feelings of anxiety or discomfort when people feel they, or things around them, are out of control.

For example, this is one of the primary reasons that people love automobiles. You can leave whenever you want, and go wherever you want. You have the ultimate choice of your entire environment: the music on the radio, the temperature, windows up or down, how fast you go. Even people who don’t like to drive enjoy the flexibility driving affords them.

But how much control do we really have? To return to the car analogy, drivers are at the mercy of a number of factors beyond their control, like traffic congestion, poor road conditions, pedestrians, tolls, and more. Other drivers on the road might cause an accident or a traffic jam, on in general drive unsafely.

Moreover, the flexibility gained by driving creates restrictions in other regards. Cars can be very expensive, with gas, insurance, repairs, parking, tolls, and taxes, in addition to the large cost of the vehicle itself. The loss of financial flexibility when owning a car is considerable. Most people are willing to accept that trade-off, but it is there regardless.

In general, we are often at the mercy of other people, or even of unpredictable events or situations.

Do you feel the need to be in control? What can you control?

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When Did You Last Push The Boundaries Of Your Comfort Zone?

It can be very easy to play it safe. However, to experience personal growth, it can sometimes be necessary to do things that might be uncomfortable. Sometimes you need to step outside your comfort zone.

Life is about trying to make things easier for yourself. You try to have enough food so that you don’t go hungry. You heat your home so that you don’t get too cold. You try to make enough money so you can afford the things you like.

And yet, if everything in life revolves around ease or comfort, you won’t reach your full potential and you won’t experience personal growth or fulfillment.

As a result, you need to purposefully include some discomfort, to stretch yourself and try something that you don’t know how to do. Finding an appropriate balance can be difficult, but is ultimately rewarding.

Are you familiar with your comfort zone? When was the last time you pushed the boundaries of your comfort zone?

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