Would You Be Friends With Yourself?

Imagine, for a moment, that there was another person who was exactly like you. They have the same physical characteristics and the same personality. Do you think you would be friends with that person?

As an individual, you possess many traits. Sometimes, these traits are synchronous with other traits you also possess. Other times, they may come into conflict.

For example, let’s say you like movies. If there was another you, both of you would enjoy movies, and even the same movies. The thing you like — movies — makes you compatible.

On the other hand, let’s imagine you have an alpha personality. You might be the natural dominant personality in any situation. However, a second you would also want to be the dominant one, which puts you in conflict with yourself.

In everyday life, sometimes people find themselves attracted to opposites. They like being around people with different backgrounds, or who have different skill sets. Others might like people who look and act just like them.

Which one are you? Do you surround yourself with similar people? Do you think you have a personality that is compatible with itself? Or would some of your traits or behaviors be irksome if they happened in someone else?

Would you be friends with yourself?

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Forest Or Trees?

As the saying goes, sometimes you can’t see the forest for the trees. Do you tend to focus on the details, or see the big picture?

Share why if you wish.

Forest Or Trees?

What Do You Believe?

Knowing what you believe is an essential part of becoming a fully-realized person. It is also helpful in a number of different ways.

Knowing your beliefs can:
  • Make you more confident

More than anything else, perhaps, your beliefs help define who you are. The more you know your beliefs, the more you know yourself, and the more confident you will be.

  • Keep you from being fooled

If someone tries to provide you with misleading or manipulative information, knowing your own thoughts is crucial. In other words, they can help you navigate difficult waters.

  • Help you make decisions

Companies often have a “mission statement” that provides guidance when there is a decision to be made. Personal beliefs can serve the same purpose. For instance, does an action get you closer to your ultimate goal? Does a decision match your values?

  •  Be a conversation starter

If you find yourself talking to a stranger and you don’t know what to say, falling back on what you believe is a good way to start. Talking about something you believe in will provide a topic to build a discussion around. Similarly, it can also be useful in determining how to respond to a conversation someone else starts.

  • Make fulfilling friendships

If you know what you think and care about, you can surround yourself with people who have beliefs that are similar, or complementary, to your own. Those friendships are likely to resonate more significantly.

  • Help you choose a meaningful career

Similar to finding friendship, the key to a fulfilling career can be an alignment of your own beliefs with a company culture or goals.

Can you think of other ways beliefs are important?

Easier said than done

Of course, talking or thinking about your beliefs is quite different from actually knowing what they are. In attempting to discover what you believe, you may even find that you question things that you have believed for a very long time. That can be very disconcerting.

Do you know what is important to you? What you are passionate about, and what is central to who you are as a person? What do you believe?

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What Experience Helped You Grow?

In theory, we get better as we age. As we gain experience and learn about ourselves and the world around us, we grow and mature.

Throughout life, there are important lessons that help us grow up. These might be painful, or frustrating, or fun, or joyous. The important thing is that we learn a lesson, or gain some new insight.

Is there a particular moment or occasion that helped you become a better person? What experience helped you grow?

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