Give Or Receive?

As the saying goes, “‘Tis better to give than to receive”. And certainly it feels good to give gifts to others. But let’s be honest — receiving is pretty great too. There is a reason that kids don’t go around giving candy on Halloween.

Which do you prefer?

Share why if you wish.

What Makes A Friendship?

When you connect with someone else, it can feel like magic. The start, and the deepening, of a friendship can feel both natural and exhilarating.

And yet, defining what exactly “friendship” means is not easy. For example, you want some common interests, or you won’t have a similar frame of reference. On the other hand, you can’t be too similar, or else you have nothing to learn from each other.

Similarly, in order to be friends, you need to enjoy each other’s company. So both have to be interesting (at least to each other), but one can’t overshadow the other.

You might have a friend who doesn’t like the same music as you. Or movies, or books, or TV shows. A friend might have a completely different job, or marital status, or be in a different economic tier. Or be a different height, have different skin color, or hail from a different religion or political party.

So what is necessary for friendship to arise between two people? And what is needed for that friendship to grow and strengthen? What makes a friendship?

Related questions: What makes a good friend? What qualities do you look for in a friend? Who are your most interesting friends? How can we become better listeners?

 

Who Are You Thankful For This Year?

We start off this Thanksgiving-themed week with a simple question: Who are you thankful for this year? Why?

Are you planning to tell them? Why or why not?

Related questions: How do you show thanks? What is your favorite Thanksgiving tradition? What does it mean to be thankful? Who is your MVP for the year?

What Are We Responsible For?

This Sunday’s question comes from regular reader Meagan, who asks: What are we responsible for?

One of the most important parts of become an adult is determining, and performing, your responsibilities. Paying your bills, doing your laundry, stocking your refrigerator, and so on.

However, beyond our individual responsibilities are the societal ones. Determining what exactly we, collectively, are responsible for is much more challenging.

In the first place, there is the issue of scope. Are we only responsible for ourselves? Our families? Or zoom out a bit. Do we bear any responsibility for our country, our species, or our ecosystem?

Additionally, there is the problem of impact. Should we consider ourselves responsible for something we have little control over? Do I bear any responsibility for the human race, when I have limited control over the vast majority of it? And how much responsibility do I have over my genetics, over which I have little control?

There is a fine balancing act in place in this regard. It can be easy to take on so much responsibility that it becomes impossible to act. However, feeling some sense of larger responsibility can lead to inspiration, which can lead to positive societal change.

How do you find that balance? When you think about your responsibilities, what are they? Do we have a collective responsibility?

Related questions: What are our responsibilities to others? What makes a community?  How much power does an individual have? What are you doing to make the world a better place? What is the greatest problem facing humanity?