How Are You Misunderstood?

One of the most difficult things about being human is how isolated we are. No one truly knows us, and every day we are misunderstood — sometimes in big ways, sometimes small.

Unfortunately, it is all too easy for misunderstandings to arise. At work, at home, at school, our image of ourselves is different from what others see.

You mean one thing, but say something else, even if what you say is close to what you meant. Your actions are misinterpreted. Your motivations are misassigned.

No one knows what goes on in your head but you. No amount of exposition, no amount of explanation is sufficient for complete understanding.

Despite our best efforts, our inner monologue is something that is unknown to all but ourselves. Even the people that know us best — our parents, our spouse, our loved ones — often misunderstand us.

In what ways are you misunderstood by those around you? How do you act, what do you say, which of your written words are misinterpreted? What traits do you have that go unheralded or unappreciated? And what do you do to address this?

Related questions: How do you think others see you? How are you underappreciated? Do you feel lonely? How do you talk about yourself?

How Has Social Media Changed Your Social Life?

Social media platforms have grown in popularity and reach. Billions of people around the world use them. How does that use impact an actual social life?

The promise of social media is that it would help you to be, well, more social. Ideally, a social media app like Instagram, Facebook, or Tik Tok (as well as many others) would allow you to stay in touch with friends and family in a new and more immersive way.

That hope is in the very name “social media”. If you want to keep in touch with someone, you can do so in a way you couldn’t before. You might even be able to meet people who share your interests that you might not otherwise have the chance to meet. It is a new dimension that you can add to your social life.

The reality, though, is a mixed bag. While you can see just what your loved ones are up to (not to mention getting a peek at the lives of celebrities!), it is more complicated than that.

Studies show more people than ever experience feelings of loneliness and isolation. Children who grow up with social media may have more difficulty interacting with peers in a real life environment. Who hasn’t seen a couple at a restaurant not talking to each other, but instead staring at their phones?

Do you have any anecdotes about how social media has directly impacted, positively or negatively, your real life? What are the pros and cons? Does it depend on which app you use, or how or when you use it?

Related questions: What do you get out of social media? Why does social media often bring out the worst in us? What makes us comment on social media? Can an internet friend be a true companion?

How Do You Describe What You Do?

Whether it is your career, your hobbies, or your private life, how you describe yourself can alter how the world sees you. What is your description?

Describing what you do, while important, can be very difficult. While it is true that what you choose to spend your time and focus on helps define you as a human being, an accurate description isn’t easy.

In fact, the manner and vocabulary you use to talk about what you do has many risks. You might bore someone else if you choose to talk about it in a clinical way. It is possible you could alienate someone who doesn’t share a common frame of reference. You might even offend someone.

And yet, sharing who you are and what you do with others is the essence of being in a community. If you have an interest in and a passion for what you do, you can convey that to someone else. And in turn, they may convey the same thing to you, if you are lucky.

How do you describe what you do? Have you given advance thought to what you might say to someone else? And do you listen when others describe what they do?

Related questions: Would you be friends with yourself? How would you describe yourself in ten words or less? How do you judge yourself? What makes a community?

Ask Questions Or Answer Questions?

When it comes to questions, are you more comfortable asking them or answering them? Is one more important than the other?

Share why if you wish.

Ask Questions Or Answer Questions?

Internal Or External?

When it comes to your life, does it tend to be more internal or external? Feel free to interpret that however you like.

Share why if you wish.

Internal Or External?